What's wrong in Suicide!

Pratyusha Bannerjee committed suicide at 24. Jiah Khan at 25. Commonality? Because of a guy whom they loved madly but he didn't.

Pratyusha

I am no one to judge their action. They must have been in utter pain and may be a bleak future which compelled them to punish themselves in the worst possible manner.

Hema Malini tweeted this about the recent suicide.

All these senseless suicides which achieve nothg! Life is God's gift for us to live not for us to take at will. We have no right to do that. — Hema Malini (@dreamgirlhema) April 4, 2016

She went on to say how the world admires a winner and not a loser.

One must learn to overcome all odds & emerge successful, not succumb under pressure &a give up easily. The world admires a fighter not a loser

Well, I do not disagree with her opinion except the timing of the tweet. C'mon Hema! You yourself are a mother of 2 daughters. You may have raised your daughters to be "bold" and "fearless" but what if they did something like this and someone else passed a remark? At least as a mother you should have understood a mother's plight who lost her only daughter and doesn't even know why!! As a mother, you should have consoled her. Rather you chose to act like a "righteous" politician. I am sorry but it showed nothing more than your stoic nature.

Pratyusha tasted success at an early age. The guy Rahul is no doubt a cheater and played games with her. But girls these days also fail to see things in the right light once they fall in love with the wrong guy. Pratyusha's  feelings were pure, but for an impure moron. She selflessly gave herself and her money for a selfish b******d.

Having a live in relationship at the age of 23 is not cool. Seriously. The body may have grown but the mind is yet not mature to handle the emotional garbage that relationship brings. That's what a scientific study has proven.And once you publicize your relationship in all possible ways through social media channels or participating in a reality show, the fear of facing the world after the failed relationship kills you, BADLY.

• Sara Khan was brave, she didn't commit suicide after marrying her boyfriend on Big Boss show which later ended in a disaster.
• Suzzane was strong. She didn't commit suicide after her 17 year old successful marriage failed due to Kangana Ranaut as alleged.
• Bipasha was bold. She didn't commit suicide when John Abraham walked away from her life after almost 11 years of live in!

A woman is undoubtedly strong. She carries a child in her womb for 9 months, goes through the agony of delivering a baby, nurturing it and selflessly being available for her baby. She is strong to take charge of extra responsibilities that marriage brings in. She is strong to stand all atrocities of her man for the sake of her children.  I have seen it happen to some in my family.

Men who say "Women are God", PLEASE walk the talk!! Learn to first treat them like equal humans, treating them like God can still wait!

If women cry, some unwanted burdens on this planet call them as their " tool" to get their things done. I recently heard an elderly man saying this. I seriously wanted to punch on his face and see if he shall use the " tool" to cry. His mother must have cried a lot while giving him birth. Had she known her son would use such derogatory language, I am sure he wouldn't have been on this planet in the first place.

My dear women - we can fight all odds. God has gifted us this unique gift of positivity, patience and perseverance. Few things to remind ourselves whenever we feel low and dejected.

1. It's OK to be egoistic to the core when you are feeling low - love and embrace yourself, pamper yourself. Make yourself the most important person on this earth. Care for your own happiness and peace of mind.

2. Don't dwell on the past. What has happened is how it was meant to happen. Don't get into victim consciousness neither play the blame game. Both are your losses. The win win situation is being at peace with your past. Take it as a learning lesson. And be positive that there is something good in this. God has a plan.

3. Get Involved. Ok! So things are not working out. Your sitting and brooding will not make them better either. Keep your mind and hands busy. Get creative. Do social service. When we do things for other without expecting any thing in return, there is higher purpose that you will be able to see in life.

4. Let the dogs bark! As barking dogs seldom bite. The fear of "Log kya kahenge" is killing. The "badnaami" of your parents can be disheartening. I understand and can empathise. But trust me, no one has time these days to sit and discuss about you. You aren't that special to them. There are some third class people in this world who are only born to be stalkers and keep a tab on what's happening in others' lives. Let them be. Be honest and answerable only to yourself.

5. Stay away from social media. Do it for a while or at least reduce the time you spend on it. Restrict your profile view in the settings to shoo away the stalkers.

6. Go Inwards: Any misery, however cruelsome, comes with the blessing of taking us inward....of spending time with ourselves...Meditating and relaxing..realizing that there is a divine power guiding us who loves us unconditionally.

I don't think if these 6 points get placed rightly in our mind, anybody will think of Suicide. As Sri Sri says,

Suicide Is the most foolish thing a person can ever do. 
It is like, someone is shivering in the cold and he goes out and removes all his clothes. What will you call him? Foolish! You are already feeling cold in a heated auditorium, and you go out into the open and say, ’I am so cold’, and remove your jacket, your t-shirt, your inner garments and throw them all out. Will the cold become any less? No!

Love life. Ups and downs are a part of life. Cry for a while if you want but then get ready for the show! Life is sacred.

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Swati